Body Language Body Gestures
The Magic, Movements and Reading of Body Language
While sitting in the company of our friends or our
acquaintances we must observe whether they are really
enjoying our talk or are just getting bored.
Although most of us hardly bother about such a term as
‘bore’ in an informal situation, one must be able to
analyze in a formal situation whether the audience is
really listening to you or not. This can be identified by
observing certain actions and gestures of the listeners.
Rejection:
Gestures like beating the table, beating knuckles on the
table, yawning, looking somewhere else, gossiping or
placing one’s head down on the table etc. denote that the
listener is getting bored and something must be done to
quickly regain the interest of the listeners.
The drooping-eyes position is the gesture shown by a person
who does not bother to hide his feelings. He puts his open
hand to the side of his head, drops his chin in a nodding
manner and allows his eyelids to droop.
Sometimes it so happens that the listener seems to be
looking directly into your eyes but his thoughts has
drifted away to some other things. The best way to identify
this is by putting up a query directly to that person.
Being faced by such a scene that person feels perplexed and
may ask you to repeat the question or simply say “I beg
your pardon”. Another way to identify this kind of a
situation is by observing the eyes of the listener. The
eyes of the listener hardly blink, as if he is in a state
of trance.
Other indications of boredom are- frequently looking at
your wristwatch...nail chewing, or throwing one’s head in a
backwards motion in order to be in a more comfortable
position, or rather more defensive position. Showing signs
of being hungry, thirsty or uncomfortable are also common
indications of boredom.
This is all according to people who think they can read the
human body and that the body speaks louder than words. The
fact is if a person is looking at his wristwatch is it
possible he has another engagement and he is keeping track
of the time? Sure it is.
If a person is nibbling on the nails, it doesn’t mean he is
bored, it could mean he has a nervous condition also. If a
person is tossing back their head, is it possible vanity is
in the picture rather than seeking comfort, or preparing
for defense? Some people do this to get their hair out of
the face.
Acceptance:
Acceptance gestures are difficult to identify although it
can be easily identified whether you are being rejected or
not. In a group if you are speaking and someone moves
closer to you and places a hand on your chest or shoulders
in a reassuring way means that you are trusted and whatever
you are saying is being accepted as the truth. Though this
can never be taken as a sure shot signal it mostly is true.
But still some of the signals that can indicate acceptance
are:
1) Hand to chest gesture: this gesture can indicate
greeting others, pledging allegiance to national flag,
openness, sincerity, swearing an oath etc. In general this
kind of a signal indicates devotion, loyalty and honesty.
2) Touching gestures: by touching we simply express our
emotions to our close ones. When someone approaches us and
touches us it can mean that he/she wants us to stop and
start listening to him/her. Touching or grasping one’s
hands or shoulders can mean that the other person wants to
interrupt or put weight on some issue.
Touching gestures can also be used to calm down a person.
Touching gestures like hugging someone indicate intimacy,
love or friendliness or a sort of closeness in relation.
While sitting in the company of our friends or our
acquaintances we must observe whether they are really
enjoying our talk or are just getting bored.
Although most of us hardly bother about such a term as
‘bore’ in an informal situation, one must be able to
analyze in a formal situation whether the audience is
really listening to you or not. This can be identified by
observing certain actions and gestures of the listeners.
Rejection:
Gestures like beating the table, beating knuckles on the
table, yawning, looking somewhere else, gossiping or
placing one’s head down on the table etc. denote that the
listener is getting bored and something must be done to
quickly regain the interest of the listeners.
The drooping-eyes position is the gesture shown by a person
who does not bother to hide his feelings. He puts his open
hand to the side of his head, drops his chin in a nodding
manner and allows his eyelids to droop.
Sometimes it so happens that the listener seems to be
looking directly into your eyes but his thoughts has
drifted away to some other things. The best way to identify
this is by putting up a query directly to that person.
Being faced by such a scene that person feels perplexed and
may ask you to repeat the question or simply say “I beg
your pardon”. Another way to identify this kind of a
situation is by observing the eyes of the listener. The
eyes of the listener hardly blink, as if he is in a state
of trance.
Other indications of boredom are- frequently looking at
your wristwatch...nail chewing, or throwing one’s head in a
backwards motion in order to be in a more comfortable
position, or rather more defensive position. Showing signs
of being hungry, thirsty or uncomfortable are also common
indications of boredom.
This is all according to people who think they can read the
human body and that the body speaks louder than words. The
fact is if a person is looking at his wristwatch is it
possible he has another engagement and he is keeping track
of the time? Sure it is.
If a person is nibbling on the nails, it doesn’t mean he is
bored, it could mean he has a nervous condition also. If a
person is tossing back their head, is it possible vanity is
in the picture rather than seeking comfort, or preparing
for defense? Some people do this to get their hair out of
the face.
Acceptance:
Acceptance gestures are difficult to identify although it
can be easily identified whether you are being rejected or
not. In a group if you are speaking and someone moves
closer to you and places a hand on your chest or shoulders
in a reassuring way means that you are trusted and whatever
you are saying is being accepted as the truth. Though this
can never be taken as a sure shot signal it mostly is true.
But still some of the signals that can indicate acceptance
are:
1) Hand to chest gesture: this gesture can indicate
greeting others, pledging allegiance to national flag,
openness, sincerity, swearing an oath etc. In general this
kind of a signal indicates devotion, loyalty and honesty.
2) Touching gestures: by touching we simply express our
emotions to our close ones. When someone approaches us and
touches us it can mean that he/she wants us to stop and
start listening to him/her. Touching or grasping one’s
hands or shoulders can mean that the other person wants to
interrupt or put weight on some issue.
Touching gestures can also be used to calm down a person.
Touching gestures like hugging someone indicate intimacy,
love or friendliness or a sort of closeness in relation.
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